Kuning

Hi. Hello. How are you?

Okay this time. I'll try to write something. No actually to be honest I dont have anything on my mind except for the fact that I have to write a new post or this blog will die of nothingness/ emptiness/ sadness okay now I'm just writing words out.

For these past few years, I've changed.

and if only I know how to write how things have changed. :-/

October 20th, 2010 was a dreadful/depressing/horrible day, and the months after that too. I'd cried myself to sleep. Im not even myself at that period. It was the most terrible part of my life. Twas just tooo depressing.

These few months have been great for me. Although Ive been swamped with assignments and all.

Heh my attempt to write something meaningful is a total FAIL FAIL FAIL FAIL products. I shall bang my head to ze door or wall which ever easier.

I shall not post this post because this is the worst post ive ever wrote. LOL JOKE I've witten worsttttt.

-I

Patience

I've been trying to write a new post read; TRYING. The topic I've chosen for that post is quite tough. So basically I'm stuck -- writers' block. It's been while since the last post, I know. I've been neglecting it for awhile now. I just don't know why. Maybe probably there's something on my mind and I've been dying to let it out but you know, I mean some of you may know that I have trouble expressing my true feeling. And now I think I'm sounding like a true emotional writer -- which I am not but since I'm a girl therefore, there should be a once a month pass for writing emotional stuff AM I RIGHT? OR AM I FREAKING RIGHT?

Sometimes I felt like I'm trapped. I can't express my true feeling. And this is bad. I need to see a therapist.

Oh hello there Izzah. I heard that you're a part time therapist-wannabe.
Oh hi there Hayati, nice to meet ya.

Okay talking to myself seems to work.

BRB Talking to myself in a quiet corner :D

Steps To Self-Modification Programme

On the January 12th, 2012 was the day where all of my tension accumulated for this semester was let go – that is the day of my Introduction to Psychology paper – which is my major.  Before that, of course I was cramming and cramming and cramming until my brain overloaded until I can’t seem to think straight. Yeah. Imagine that –Izzahfikirbengkangbengkok. Epic fail.

Anyway back to my story, while I was cramming for my paper, I found this amazing very useful steps in changing behaviour in my psychology text book – Weiten(2008). So these steps are very useful to anyone who wants to change their behaviour either increase or decrease it. For example, A is trying to exercise at least 2 times a week  and B is trying to quit smoking. Ada faham?

I showed this diagram to my sister, Iffah – and she said that it is hard to understand the terms. So I will explain the steps below.

Step 1 – Specifying Your Target Behaviour


Ataupun dalam bahasa Melayu nya – “Menyatakan Kelakuan Sasaran kamu”. For example, you’re trying to quit smoking, therefore your target is to quit smoking – but remember to specify your target, meaning WHEN you want to quit and STICK to it. A target without a clear path is just a fantasy. So SPECIFY your target. As stated in Weiten(2008), “Behaviour modification can only be applied to a clearly defined, overt(terang-terangan / nyata) response, yet many people have difficulty pinpointing the behaviour that they hope to alter.”

Example, To Quit Smoking On January 20th, 2012.

Step 2 – Gathering Baseline Data

Ataupun dalam bahasa Melayu nya – “Mengumpul Data Asas”. You need to systematically observe your target behaviour for a period of time before you sketch the details of your programme. You need to monitor 3 things to gather baseline data.

First: - Identify possible controlling antecedents.
Selepas di google translate –maksud antecedent yang diberi oleh google adalah “hidup sebelum masa ini”. Whatthe. Jangan depends on Google Translate sangat lah zah. The definition of antecedents according to Weiten(2008) are the events that typically precede the target response. Maksudnya, korang akan lebih rasa untuk merokok apabila di kedai mamak ketika lepak bersama sama member ataupun ketika bosan. So, you have to aware of which events that trigger you to smoke and list it down yawwlll.

Second:- Determine initial level of response
Atau record dalam satu hari berapa kali kebiasaannya kamu akan merokok. RECORD as in tulis dalam buku 555 ataupun conteng mukabuku NajwaLatif. LOLSORRYLAMEJOKE. You wouldn’t know the difference before and after unless you record the data. Macam redundant pulak apa yang aku cuba cakap ni. Nevermind.

Third:- Identify possible controlling consequences
You need to monitor the typical consequences of your target behaviour. Try to identify the reinforcers (penguat/pengukuh) that are maintaining undesirable target behaviour (smoking) outcomes that are suppressing (memendamkan) a desirable target behaviour (quit smoking). For example, you noticed that when you’re surrounded by your peers who are smokers you tend to smoke more; therefore your peers are the reinforcers to your smoking problem that are suppressing your desire to quit smoking. Bak kata doctor doctor kesihatan, Prevention is better than cure.

Step 3 – Designing Your Programme

Ataupun dalam bahasa Melayu nya –“Merekabentuk Rancangan Kamu”. Your programme will be designed either to increase or to decrease the regularity of target behaviour.

Increase Response Strength – Depend largely on positive reinforcement. Positive reinforcement –for example A wants to exercise at least 2 times a week and if A succeeds her target she will reward herself with a bubble bath. To determine personal reinforcers you need to ask yourself questions such as:- What do I like to do for fun? What makes me feel good? What would be a nice present? What would I hate to lose?

Decrease Response Strength – Use the same positive reinforcement applied to increase response strength whenever you strained yourself from taking a ciggie(for example). Other than reinforcement, the strategy of decreasing unwanted behaviour is by punishing yourself. Iye memang susah nak hukum diri sendiri tapi dengan cara macam ni, yawl boleh control yourself from doing it. Get it? Tapi punishment tu jangan lah yang over, for example if you want to decrease the intake of fastfood – and suddenly you’re craving for McD’s Prosperity Burger and you “accidently” bought and ate it -- you punish yourself by going to the gym. Macam tu lah!

Step 4 – Executing and evaluating your programme

Ataupun dalam bahasa Melayu nya –“Melaksanakan dan menilai program anda”. This is the most crucial part of this programme, to see whether you flunk it or succeed with flying colours.

And do share to people you love as sharing is caring.

P/s I spent hours for this entry alone. :')

Guide To A Better Life

A few years ago, 3 years ago to be exact -- I received one email from my sister, Ismah. 

And today I decided to share the content of the email with you guys. Read with clear heart and mind. 

" GUIDE TO A BETTER LIFE by Randy Pausch This is amazing, he died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book ‘The last lecture” before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind … In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan, and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow. May you be blessed by his insight. POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE Cara untuk memajukan kehidupan:- Personality: 1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Jangan bandingkan kehidupan kamu dengan orang lain. Kamu tak mungkin tahu perjalanan hidup yang mereka lalui.

2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment. Jangan bersikap negative untuk sesuatu yang bukan dalam kawalan kita (masa depan). Sebaliknya curahkan tenaga secara positif untuk apa yang berlaku sekarang.

3. Don't over do; keep your limits. Jangan berlebihan dalam melakukan sesuatu, kenal pasti had kemampuan kamu.

4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does. Jangan terlalu serius terhadap diri sendiri (jangan desak diri), sebenarnya tiada orang lain sebegitu.

5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip. Jangan bazirkan tenaga yang berharga untuk gossip.

6. Dream more while you are awake. Banyak bermimpi dalam sedar (pasang impian yang realistik).

7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need. Iri hati adalah membazir. Kamu sudah punya semua yang kamu perlu.

8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness. Lupakan isu masa lalu. Jangan ungkit kesilapan masa lalu pasangan kamu. Itu hanya akan menghancurkan kebahagiaan kamu masa kini.

9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others. Hidup ini terlalu singkat untuk membenci sesiapa. Jangan benci sesiapa!

10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present. Berdamailah dengan masa lalu (redha), maka ia takkan menghancurkan kehidupan masa kini.

11. NO ONE IS IN CHARGE OF YOUR HAPPINESS EXCEPT YOU. Tiada siapa bertanggungjawab untuk kebahagiaan kamu melainkan kamu sendiri.

12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime. Sedari bahawa kehidupan ibarat sekolah dan kamu di sini untuk belajar. Masalah adalah sebagai dari pembelajaran yang akan datang dan pergi seperti kelas algebra tetapi pengajaran yang kamu perolehi akan kekal sepanjang hayat.

13. SMILE AND LAUGH MORE. Banyakkan senyum dan ketawa.

14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. Kamu tidak perlu memenangi setiap perbalahan. Adakalanya perlu setuju untuk tidak dipersetujui. Community: 15. Call your family often. Kekalkan hubungan baik dengan keluarga.

16. Each day give something good to others. Jadi orang yang memberi manfaat kepada orang lain setiap hari.

17. Forgive everyone for everything. Maafkan semua orang untuk semua perkara.

18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6. Luangkan lebih masa dengan orang yang berumur lebih dari 70 tahun dan di bawah umur 6 tahun (lihat gelagat mereka, ambil iktibar).

19. Try to make at least three people smile each day. Cuba buat sekurang-kurangnya 3 orang tersenyum setiap hari.

20. What other people think of you is none of your business. Jangan hiraukan pandangan orang lain terhadap diri kamu. 21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch. Kerjaya kamu tidak boleh menjaga kamu semasa kamu sakit. Keluarga dan kawan-kawan kamu yang boleh, maka jaga hubungan kamu dengan mereka. Life: 22. PUT GOD FIRST IN ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING THAT YOU THINK, SAY AND DO. Letakkan DIA sebagai yang pertama dalam segala hal yang kamu fikirkan, ucapkan dan lakukan.

23. GOD heals everything. DIA adalah penyembuh segala penyakit.

24. Do the right things. Lakukan perkara yang sewajarnya (yang benar).

25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. Walau baik atau buruk suatu keadaan, ia akan berubah.

26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up. Tak kira apa yang kamu alami, bangkitlah, kemaskan diri dan sedia beraksi.

27. The best is yet to come. Yang terbaik pasti akan datang.

28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful. Hindari perkara yang tak biasa, yang indah atau mengujakan.

29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it. Apabila kamu masih dibangkitkan keesokan pagi, bersyukurlah padaNYA.

30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy. Jika kamu kenaliNYA, kamu pasti akan sentiasa bahagia. Maka, berbahagialah..   While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with, people you play with, people you work with and people you live with. Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you. Semasa kamu mempraktikkan semua yang tersebut di atas, kongsikan ilmu ini dengan orang yang kamu sayang, mereka yang bersekolah dengan kamu, rakan-rakan sepermainan, rakan sekerja dan orang-orang di sekeliling kamu. Bukan hanya ia akan memperbaiki hidupmu, tetapi juga orang-orang di sekeliling kamu...   "

Long Time No Write

It's been awhile since I last, have written a blog entry. You cant imagine how excited I am to be back -- of course with a new mission in mind. Before this, I've written more on personal stuff; my favourite stuff at that particular period -- and now we shall see what in store for you guys. LOLZ. *Gila self obses bajet orang nak sangat baca penulisan kau meh*